Giving birth is a wonderful time. It is the end of your pregnancy but the start of the rest of your life. You
are now able to hold your little baby in your arms, smell that newborn scent and start your family.
In the time after giving birth, most eyes will be on your new addition. You will be constantly visited by
family and friends wanting to meet your baby and congratulate you. It is a very exciting time.

During this time though it is important to think about more than just the baby. You need to focus on
yourself as well. Your mind and body has gone through a huge change, there are hormones running
through your body and you are probably feeling things you have never felt before.

After having a baby there are things that may not be said to you, but that you should definitely hear.

1. After Having a Baby, It Is Normal To Cry

You will cry. There will be tears of happiness, tears of sadness, tears of exhaustion and tears that you
have no idea why they are there. This is all completely normal. There are so many hormones and emotions
going through your body after you give birth and you will be trying to process all of these whilst still
trying to keep up with your day to day activities.

Don’t fight the tears, let them flow when they need to and take the time to process your emotions.

2. You Will Be Happy With Your Body Again 

Remember you have just carried a child inside of you for 9 months. There are going to be some very
obvious changes to your body and you know what – that is great! It shows what you went through, it
shows the extremes that you went to in order to carry your baby. Don’t think too much about your body
in the months after having a baby. Focus on spending time with your new addition, focus on enjoying
yourself and the blessing that is being a mother.

Your body will come back to you in time, don’t put pressure on yourself or worry about how you look.

3. After Having a Baby,You Matter Too

It is natural for everyone to be caught up with the new little baby. But you need to remember that you
matter as well. You are the one that has gone through all these changes both physically, emotionally and
mentally. You need to make sure that you are looking after yourself, that you are eating well, drinking
plenty of water and getting the sleep that you need.

Your baby is not going to be able to function and stay healthy if you are running yourself into the

After Having a Baby is it normal to

4. It Is Ok To Ask For Help

Asking for help is probably one of the hardest things we can do as a mother. We want to be able to do it
all and get it all right. However there will be times when it is not possible. When these moments arise
and you are feeling overwhelmed, ask for help. There will be plenty of people waiting and willing to help
you at the drop of a hat.

Don’t try to do it all yourself, lean on those close to you and let them help where they can.

5. The Housework Can Wait 

A messy house should be the last of your concerns. You are raising a new baby who possibly doesn’t like
sleeping, who wants your attention and you probably have numerous people coming over to meet the
baby. Leave the housework. Spend your time with your baby, embrace your new addition and forget
about the folding that needs to be done.

Housework is not important at the moment and you don’t need to be worrying about that.


Being a new mum either for the first time or the fourth time is tough. There will be sleepless nights,
visitors and times when your baby just wants to be held. Embrace these moments. Remember you are
just as important and focus on making sure you are healthy as well as your baby.

You did an amazing thing bringing a baby into the world and you should be spending your time
celebrating that.

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